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How to Make New Years Resolutions Stick

New Year’s Resolutions

It is December 26th and we have 6 more days left of 2017.  This year has been full of unexpected twists and turns.  This is not a political blog, so I will just leave it at that.  

New Year’s always brings a time of self reflection, we measure if we have accomplished what we set out to do or if we have fallen brutally short of our goals.   New Year’s is a time of renewal, the cold frigid air that kills the old life (our mistakes and heartaches) and gives birth to  new and fresh opportunities.   New Year’s is a time when we gladly bid farewell to the old year and eagerly anticipate the new one.  The New Year is full of promise and wonder!

Usually, New Year’s resolutions are broken within the first 30 days of the New Year.  But, what if you chose a New Year’s resolution that was full proof?  A resolution that will revolutionize the way you look at life and the way you approach it?   New Year’s resolutions, need to me SMART.

SMART is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely.  Many of us set goals or resolutions and we do not accomplish them.  For example, If I want to lose weight, I will set an unrealistic goal such as, I am going to lose 30 pounds in 2 days.  This is not a SMART choice.   

So, how can I make sure I achieve my New Year’s Resolutions?

  1. Write down what you are trying to accomplish.  Is this goal realistic?  For example if you want to become an opera singer and you can not sing.  I want to tell you, you may not be able to accomplish this goal.  However, if  you want to lose weight, this is an attainable goal.  Break up the weight loss goals in bite size accomplishments, make sure you set small goals so you will feel accomplished and keep going.   

  2. Is your time frame realistic?  How much time are you giving yourself to accomplish this goal?  As stated before if you are trying to lose 30 pounds in 2 days, this is impossible and you are setting yourself up for failure.  If you want to lose 30 pounds in 3-6 months, this is attainable.   You may be able to lose more weight within that time frame, however, setting an attainable goal and accomplishing it; will make you want to keep going.

  3. No how will you accomplish this goal? What actions will you take on a daily basis to help you meet this goal? A tip that will help you is, WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN ON PAPER.  If you see your goals on paper or a white board or a planner, you will see it all the time and you will remember what you need to action, to accomplish this goal.

  4. Now that you have decided what your goal is (Specific), decided how you will track your success (Measurable), decided the actions steps that are necessary to (Attain) it and decided if you can (Realistically) accomplish it, Now you need to take action and set a date to finish your goal.

  5. If you first don’t succeed try and try again.  Never ever ever give up.   If you keep plugging away at something, you will eventually become proficient.

I endeavor to keep plugging away at my goals for 2018  The first goal is to stop comparing myself to others.  I am unique and lovely all by myself and each person is uniquely her own person.  As I follow my path and stop looking at others along their path, I will grow in joy and passion, because; as I become more self reflective and aware of what I need to focus on, I will have all I need to accomplish my goals in 2018 and so will you.

Top 5 Reasons to Love Christmas

Top 5 Reason to Love Christmas

It is the most wonderful time of the year.  The week between Christmas and New Years is purely magical.  It is a time when you see friends and family you haven’t seen in years and school age and college students come home!   I love, love, love it.

We love the food, the fellowship and the fun of this season. For those of us who celebrate Christmas as more than a reason to give gifts; it is a spiritual expression of love.


The Top 5 Reasons to Love Christmas


  1. You get an opportunity to spend time with loved ones.  It is one of the only holidays when most of our lives come to a complete stop and we look at our lives and reflect.  We give and exchange gifts, we get a chance to sleep in late and watch old movies and enjoy our loved one’s it is pure magic.

  1. You get gifts!  You get to try on the new clothes, spray on the new perfumes and try new things.  Especially for the ladies who  love to look and smell good.  This is one of our days to shine. We put on our best outfits after slaving over a stove for hours.  We put on our favorite heels (even if just for a moment) for pictures and stage our homes to look like a magazine cover.

    Christmas Tree and Gifts


  1. We let out our inner Martha Stewart.  I homes are decorated with bright lights, and ornaments.   Our dinner tables our decked out in fine linen and china and we have Christmas music and sports playing in the background at the same time.   We can’t wait to see our guests faces light up when they see our Christmas spread.


Holiday Table Setting


  1. We get to take naps.

  1. We eat until we are stuffed and then we take more naps.


Why do you love Christmas?   I love the reason for the season, but I also love the top five choices!


Rev up your Holiday Outfits with these 5 Red Lipsticks

The Holidays are upon us and many of us are frantically looking for the perfect gift, or the perfect accessories for your black dress.   One sure fire way to add drama to your Christmas or New Years look is the use of make-up.   I love this blog post on “5 Red Lipstick Picks for Holiday Makeup Looks.   Enjoy!

5 Red Lipstick Picks for Holiday Makeup Looks

I’m on a serious liquid lipstick binge right now and we all know there’s nothing more festive than a classic red lip for the holidays. Just remember to wear lipsticks with blue undertones, it will make your teeth look whiter!
Unlike my previous lip – source